So you’ve since discovered and probably have definitive proof that the one whom you promised to love and who promised to love you back till death has been cheating on you. What do you do next? If you don’t have definitive proof yet but have suspicions, you may need to get definitive proof first, so click here to discover how to catch a cheating husband or wife.
If you do have proof, you probably want to confront them with your evidence. Honestly, if you want to go ahead with confronting a cheating husband or wife then go ahead and do so. But you may want to exercise caution because not every situation is the same and the way people react to confrontation varies and can turn dangerous in many situations. You don’t want to end up on the news especially if you did nothing wrong.
Confronting a cheating husband or wife
If you plan on confronting a cheating husband or wife alone, you may want to be extra careful. You may even want to hold off on the confrontation for a while. Is your spouse known flying off the handle at the drop of a hat? If so, being alone may not be the best way to accuse your husband or wife of cheating on you or showing them the proof that you have. This is particularly true if you intend on ending your relationship or asking for a divorce.
If possible, before confronting a cheating husband or wife, have a trusted friend, family member, or police officer with you at your home.
While you may not want to be alone when confronting a cheating spouse, there are also some people you don’t want to have around such as your children if you have any. Never confront a cheating spouse or even accuse them of cheating in front of your children. Take them over to grandma or a neighbor or friend’s house. It doesn’t matter if your children are teenagers or newborns.
Teens know about cheating and you don’t want to drag them into the mess and you don’t want them getting involved especially if an argument ensues because while your spouse may be a terrible husband or wife, they may be a good parent to your children so don’t get your children involved. Newborns or very young children may have no clue as to what you’re talking about, but the raised voices may be frightening for them.
If your husband or wife is physically and/or mentally abusive, use your best judgment. When your spouse is abusive, either verbally or physically, you’ll want to proceed with extreme caution. Even though they are caught cheating they may not want to end the marriage and may turn their cheating into something that’s your fault and may put their hands on you to get that point across.
If you intend to end your marriage due to cheating, it may be best to do so all at once. Have a trusted friend, relative, or the police on standby. If your spouse starts to get violent or upset with you for bringing up their cheating ways, take action immediately. Call for help or get out of your house and don’t return until they are gone or you have the police with you. Never put yourself in harm’s way when confronting a cheating spouse if you know the situation can get volatile.
Some spouses may also simply want you to discover their cheating ways and confront them with the evidence so that you are the one who pulls the trigger on the marriage so that they don’t have to because of cowardice. While the demise of the marriage in this case may be sad, it may not be dangerous.
Another situation where you want to be cautious when calling out a cheating spouse is if you aren’t ready to walk out the door. Many lawyers even recommend that you don’t leave the house especially if you want it in the divorce settlement.
Yes, you have every right to remain in your home and your spouse may be the one who has to or should leave, but that doesn’t mean the situation will go that way. If your spouse refuses to leave your home, even just for a temporary break, are you prepared to? What about your children, if you are a parent?
If your main goal is to end your relationship with your cheating spouse, be sure to have a set plan in place for you and your family. If you don’t have the resources, start making a plan today before confronting him or her. Don’t let fear stop you from doing what you need to do for yourself and you children (if any). Get your ducks in a row. Talk to a lawyer even before the confrontation to see what you are entitled to.
On the other hand, you may be planning on confronting a cheating husband or wife but don’t want the marriage to end. While cheating can be hurtful and it may be difficult to trust your husband or wife again, it doesn’t mean that the marriage has to end if both of you are not ready for the marriage to end.
Plenty of marriages survive after cheating. Counseling or mediation can help but you do need to make sure that your spouse is not ready for the marriage to end because you can’t fix your marriage all by yourself. Discover how effective steps to save your marriage here.
Finally while you may be thinking of confronting a cheating husband or wife because you have your suspicious, I would advice against it until you get some proof as mentioned earlier. Even though they may be cheating, they may deny it especially if they don’t want the marriage to end. Get your proof. Find out how to do so here.