Do you have a feeling in the pit of your stomach that something’s just not quite right in your marriage? That maybe cheating is going on. Very rarely is this feeling wrong. If you suspect your wife or husband of cheating, there are usually some signs that can help you make the case but you still need some idea that you are not losing your mind and being paranoid. With that in mind, here are some of the top 10 signs of a cheating spouse.
You then need to confirm your suspicions which can be done in many ways. Asking your husband or wife point-blank if they are cheating, hiring a private investigator, monitoring your credit card bill, phone bill, etc. But first, let’s look at the top 10 signs of a cheating husband or wife.
Signs of a cheating spouse
1. Change in appearance
A sudden change in appearance (going to the gym, dressing differently, wearing cologne or perfume, etc), while they may be innocent, could also be one of the top 10 signs of a cheating spouse to watch out for. They could be making these changes for themselves or for you or it could be to impress someone else. If your spouse starts paying more attention to their weight or purchases new outfits or starts dressing differently than they did before, they may be having an affair.
2. Distance or lack of communication
You need to consider if there have been any changes in communication between you two. If your spouse has recently stopped talking to you or distanced themselves from you at home, there is a good chance that they are having an extramarital affair. This is because they may be afraid of making a mistake and talking about their affair, feeling guilty around you because they know they are doing something wrong or they may already be discussing their problems with someone else who may be taking your place.
3. Always working late
Another of the signs of a cheating spouse is working late. Depending on your spouse and his or her career, they really may have to work late. They may just be ambitious and want to make partner in a few years but just because they work so much doesn’t mean that they can’t make time for an affair especially if you are not so understanding about them working so much. Also, are they really working late or simply using this excuse for a secret rendezvous?
So be on the lookout for changes and use your best judgment. Has your husband or wife all of a sudden started working late or has this been the case throughout your marriage? In terms of using your best judgment, know what careers often call for late nights, such as lawyers, doctors, etc.
4. Too much time with friends
Spending time with friends does not always signal a cheater. Having an active social life even one away from you is healthy and healthy relationships need a few outside friendships. With that said, be sure to use your best judgment. Look for the appearance of new friends or an increased amount of time spent with them. Has your husband or wife gone from spending one night a week with friends to three or more?
5. They are MIA
When you’re married, there is never really any reason why you shouldn’t know where your spouse is, especially late at night or for long periods of time. If you don’t know, this is another of the top signs of a cheating spouse. When they do get home, they better have a good reason for being late or not letting you know where they were.
Many men and women are not careful about cheating. Everyone makes mistakes no matter how careful they think they are. This often involves them telling someone or someone seeing them out on a date or noticing them being overly friendly with someone. In these types of situations, people often talk. Listen to what you hear. If people are telling you that your spouse is cheating, it might be time to start listening.
If people are suddenly awkward around you, it could also mean that they know something about your spouse that they feel you should know but don’t know how to broach the subject with you or whether they should even get involved.
7. No intimacy
At least they are not being intimate with YOU and can be a red flag making this one of the top signs of a cheating spouse. If you can’t remember the last time you were intimate and your husband or wife doesn’t seem as bothered by it, he or she may be getting their physical needs met elsewhere.
8. Accuse you of cheating
This may be a sign of the guilty. Accusing you of something that they are doing. If your husband or wife accuses you of cheating, think about whether you have given them cause for this accusation being leveled at you. If you haven’t, there is a high probability that they are accusing you of cheating to make themselves feel less guilty.
9. “We’re Just Friends”
The “just friends,” phrase can be a sign of a cheating husband or wife. As with all other friendships, it is important to use your best judgment especially if it’s someone of the opposite sex and/or a newly acquired friend. Does it seem that your spouse is sharing more with this friend than with you? Are they spending a great deal of time together?
10. That “feeling” your have
Rarely does our intuition lead us astray. If you have reason to believe that your husband or wife is cheating, they may be very well be. There is always a chance that you’re wrong but it’s always good to follow your intuition.
No one wants to be cheated on and it’s important not to bury your head in the sand and face the issue head on. In addition to the seeing whether the above apply to your spouse, you may want to take additional steps to see if they are truly cheating. Find out more about what to do if you suspect cheating by clicking here.